Library & Learning Commons: Resiliency: Relationships and Domestic Violence: Additional Materials

Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships | Shasta Nelson | TEDxLaSierraUniversity

Our world is getting "better" at connecting us and yet we're reporting feeling more disconnected than ever. The issue: loneliness. The solution: understanding the 3 actions that lead to belonging. Shasta Nelson is passionate about all things friendship. As founder and CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com— the female-friendship learning community—she speaks and writes regularly on this important topic.

TEDx Talks. (2017, December 15). Frientimacy: The 3 requirements of all healthy friendships | Shasta Nelson | TEDxLaSierraUniversity [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/hmJyWreER7A?si=1wKK5B6Wa1HRodq_

The Power of Relationships | Andrew Mills | TEDxEdenHighSchool

If you knew what mattered most in life, would that change how you live? How you spend your time? If you knew that there was something that would help you live a longer, healthier, happier life, wouldn’t you make that a priority? Listen to Andrew Mills as he passionately shares his story of discovery and healing and how you can change your own life, beginning today.

TEDx Talks. (2017, April 13). The power of relationships | Andrew Mills | TEDxEdenHighSchool [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/lf3VPtQyehI?si=MXthshvmKRPZWztQ

The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood | TED

In a talk about understanding and practicing the art of healthy relationships, Katie Hood reveals the five signs you might be in an unhealthy relationship -- with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member -- and shares the things you can do every day to love with respect, kindness and joy. "While love is an instinct and an emotion, the ability to love better is a skill we can all build and improve on over time," she says.

TED. (2019, June 11). The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood | TED [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/ON4iy8hq2hM?si=oiUypKSNj2ifN67A

Why domestic violence victims don't leave | Leslie Morgan Steiner | TED

Leslie Morgan Steiner was in "crazy love" -- that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life. Steiner tells the dark story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the silence.

TED. (2013, January 25). Why domestic violence victims don't leave | Leslie Morgan Steiner | TED [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/V1yW5IsnSjo?si=hzqETEYz8dVjs50w

A Dangerous Silence: Domestic Violence Documentary

Produced and directed by Jacobe Love, this domestic violence documentary shows families, friends and experts in the small town of Columbus, Georgia who share stories about their battles lost and won, in their efforts against domestic violence, sexual assault and teenage dating violence. Some reveal cherished memories and regrets, while authorities and professionals explain their methods for eradicating violence in the city. The state of Georgia has high rates of domestic abuse and dating violence. In 2018, there were 45,715 crisis calls to Georgia's certified domestic violence agencies. However, in 2022, there were 129,528 crisis calls to Georgia's certified domestic violence and sexual assault agencies, a 13% increase from 2021 crisis calls. Columbus, albeit a small town, has been a powder keg in recent years of violent crimes. Domestic affairs being the most active. Love, whose mother, grandmother and aunt were all involved in abusive relationships themselves, also witnessed six murder cases of domestic violence while working as a field photographer for WLTZ NBC 38. As such, his need to use his skills and resources to do something grew stronger. Jacobe Love said his film is called "A Dangerous Silence" because if in domestic violence situations, you keep silent and it keeps happening, you could lose your life. This powerful documentary is a benefit to every community. It's important to see the stories of Jerrica Spellman, Destinee Virgin, Mariah Farrow and DeAnn King, who did dot deserve their lives cut short by this Dangerous Silence. This film is dedicated to everyone who has lost their lives to domestic abuse and it's a commemoration to all domestic abuse survivors.

REALWOMEN/REALSTORIES. (2023, June 23). A dangerous silence: Domestic violence documentary [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/6afQytX5cVg?si=AV_L2rHDrzIQn57g

What is domestic violence?

Leading domestic violence website DomesticShelters.org walks viewers through a brief but comprehensive 9-minute definition of domestic violence, the types of domestic violence, how to identify behavior that constitutes domestic violence and where to find help. A great introductory educational piece and conversation starter for support groups, community groups and youth groups.

domesticshelters.org. (2017, September 14). What is domestic violence? [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/gYMkE6YSmWk?si=ZCZWX0o4SrivGdwq

What is Intimate Partner Violence?

Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a serious, preventable public health problem. Public health and violence prevention practitioners and researchers are united by a common goal: prevent IPV by reducing risk factors and increasing protective factors. To that end, CDC is working to promote a consistent definition of IPV and to encourage the use of evidence-based prevention strategies, such as those in Preventing Intimate Partner Violence Across the Lifespan: A Technical Package of Programs, Policies and Practices.

Centers for Disease Control (CDC). (2018, May 15). What is intimate partner violence? [Video]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/VuMCzU54334?si=IXV1Tp3hdMUlD3tI

DomesticShelters.org
Welcome to DomesticShelters.org. We’re the first and largest online and mobile searchable directory of domestic violence programs and shelters in the U.S. and Canada, and a leading source of helpful tools and information for people experiencing and working to end domestic violence.
eNOugh NC
eNOugh NC is committed to raising the public’s awareness about the epidemic of intimate partner/domestic violence, contributing to prevention efforts across the state, and improving community response to survivors.
Healthy Relationships Initiative
The Healthy Relationships Initiative involves a partnership between UNC Greensboro and the Phillips Foundation. Our interdisciplinary team members from UNC Greensboro bring together a diverse set of knowledge and skills to work toward HRI’s mission to promote happy, healthy, and safe relationships of all kinds.

https://healthyrelationshipsinitiative.org/community-resources/toolkits/
Love is Respect
love is respect is the national resource to disrupt and prevent unhealthy relationships and intimate partner violence by empowering young people through inclusive and equitable education, support, and resources.
North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence
At NCCADV, we strive to bring together people who share a common goal: To create a world where everyone can live – and love – free from the threat of abuse.
Office on Violence Against Women
U.S. Department of Justice - Focus Area - Domestic Violence
Safety Net Project - Technology Safety & Privacy: A Toolkit for Survivors
from the National Network to End Domestic Violence:

Exploring technology safety in the context of intimate partner violence, sexual assault, and violence against women.

https://www.techsafety.org/resources-survivors
We Think Twice
We Think Twice is a social media movement designed with teens for teens.

Addressing Sexual and Relationship Violence: A Trauma-Informed Approach
This toolkit describes a public health model of trauma-informed care and provides guidance on engaging all campus constituents in creating a trauma-informed campus. The toolkit provides institutions of higher education with a comprehensive, meaningful resource to utilize when developing prevention programming as well as response to incidents of sexual violence experienced by members of the campus community.

American College Health Association. (2024). Addressing sexual and relationship violence: A trauma-informed approach. Silver Spring, MD: American College Health Association.

Family-Centered Toolkit for Domestic Violence Programs
This toolkit is intended to share practice wisdom, knowledge and accessible resources to enhance and sustain family-centered services within domestic violence programs and organizations.

Blumenfeld, S. and Baca, J. (2021). Family-Centered Toolkit for Domestic Violence Programs. Chicago, IL: National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Mental Health.